Why can’t I meet a woman who if she is interested in me wants to go out on a couple of dates and build things into a relationship?
Even more annoying why can’t I meet a woman who if she isn’t interested or unavailable just say “sorry I’m not interested” like virtually straightaway rather than some time down the line?
So since my last post with Summer things have been in a state of will they/won’t they limbo. We were still chatting alot online as I haven’t really seen her at work. We were getting to know each other better and exchanged personal stuff I don’t even think I have discussed with some of my closest friends (ie porn preferences 😉). Besides Gemma whom only because we used to be in a relationship I have never talked about porn with any of my other female friends, so I’m thinking maybe Summer is starting to see me as more than friends material. Then a few days ago with my overthinking brain in overdrive I asked her if she fancied anyone at work because maybe she actually liked someone else at work and just used the “I don’t like to date colleagues” thing to fob me off. She says there is a guy she likes but doesn’t work with us. OK so it must be someone she knows in her outside work social circle. Made it clear that it’s definitely one guy and there was no torn decision between me and him so I figured I’m slightly out of the running.
I was quiet online with her for a couple of days, then after a conversation with a mate of mine about the subject he said to me that I should ask her if this guy she fancies feels the same way. That way if she says no and it turns out he doesn’t feel the same way I could possibly be in with a shot, but if she says yes then I’m screwed. So I asked her, she not only said yes but she went on to say that they have already been on 3 dates……….. But it still early days. FUCK OFF!!!! hmmmm so when I asked her if she would ever date me, I do believe mentioning that fact would of been helpful before I wrote that long honest truth to her about how I felt in the last post. So I just feel like a fool and wasted my time. I don’t know maybe it’s because she’s a decade younger so it’s a different mindset, but come on.
Crispywalker 